overhaul
I have been away for a few days and wanted to take the time to thank all the wonderful buddies who asked about me. I am doing okay. I am doing a super overhaul. there are some things I cannot control in my life so I need to learn to let them go. I need to learn not to stress and be upset over something I have no control over at all. Not as easy as it sounds.
The other part of overhaul is to surround myself with people who take me the way I am. Now that one is also not always easy but this week it worked well and in return makes me more positive and happier.
I am working on being happy. I am working on not taking people for granted who love me. Sometimes I wonder what the heck is wrong with me? Why do I take my husband for granted. he is there for me ALL the time. Never judges just listens. Always has something to say. He is honest so lots of times it is not what I want to hear.
I have a few friends who I have been taking for granted as well. They call I do not answer. I think I have nothing good to say so why talk to them. Well a few of them really care.
I wrote this long letter to them apologizing and they accepted it so I am super happy even though it was hard to recognize I was wrong and admitting it it sure paned out.
I have stayed away from here cause it has caused me some stress, heartache and just took too much time out of my day. I do miss it so I decided to still stay but take a step back. I can learn so much here and hopefully give a thing or two even though i felt I have not done that much. So I want to get back to being supportive and concentrate on my buddies…
I sort of also drifted away from my goals. And I rededicated myself. I have this week not eaten too well nor worked out to my potential so that will stop today. Plan is in place ready to be executed.
it is easy for me to say oh I am 139 now and my goal was 140 so I can take a break. Or heck I am wearing size 5 juniors so heck take a break but well that is not the way to go. I need to keep pushing. I have fat to melt here. lots of it.
Okay this is really it for today. Weird been not blogging but yet have not too much to say. Oh the boring life I lead…
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wow thats awesome! it takes alot of guts to admit when you are wrong and actually approach ppl to apologize.
I completely understand the need to make things simpler. You cant stress over every aspect of your life.
We always have something to work on as women. Our work is never done!
I missed you but know you are busy.
WE do miss you, but we understand. I hope you find your balance and happiness.
I seen you blogged and I had to come. I understand, like I said no more apologizing. And I need to use my phone card up!!!! Unfortunately it wont be for 4.5 hours this time. Miss you hun!!! You are amazing and have came so far.
Try to keep making time for friends. I spent 20 years taking care of kids, not allowing myself to have friends. I couldn’t even eat with people I worked with because I was the boss. So, it is really important to keep those friends. My mother who died this year worked for 22 years, had 7 children and a garden and still had several friends. She also cooked up a storm and quilted. She weighed over 300 pounds, but did that stop her from doing things? Heck no. So, she was my role model and I am trying to have a social life too, even though it does not come naturally. I am thinking about joining a church group. Be glad you have friends.
I dont seem to notice when u dont blog cause I yap at you on fb… Kind of strange! I was doing soo good til after I blogged lastnt… I will be back to counting calories next week
Glad u r redidicating to urself, Kerstin! xoxoxo
Hey girl. I think its great that you took some time to look around and make some changes. Plus, that learning to let go of what you cant control–your right–that is a biggie & it is harder then it sounds. That was one of my really big issues. So, it sounds like you were looking for a better balance and thats awesome.
I have to admit to something though. You are one of the people that have inspired me to try something–its a program called couch to 5 k. I couldnt help but think of you and how amazing you have done–so all those blogs and stuff about running…thank you for sharing.
I understand, I need to spend less time on here sometimes too
wow, we never stop growing as people, do we?
You’re awesome, and every wish for strength as you keep working to find that balance–you can do this!
I haven’t been here as much lately either. It’s great to make changes in your life and take care of you.
Im happy we are friends on FB too. I feel like we get to chat more often than not!
You take your you time, Kerstin. It will make you feel better. And Im sure you and your family love it! So yay!!!
You have reached your goals. So why not make new ones? Vow to maintain. Or make some fun goals that have nothing to do with weight at all!!!
I think you are a fantastic friend. We all go through things. And like I told you before, your true friends will be there for you through thick and thin. Im here for you, if you ever want to talk. Hang in there, Kerstin. Things will turn around!
Great blog girl.
Understandable.
I nedd to take a step back and examine how much time I soend on here… dont get me wrong this is a great site but sometimes I say 1/2 an hour and it will get later and later. I try not to leave people out but I need to get on track with my early bedtime goal!!!
Glad that you are here to stay!!!
Sorry for all of the typos!!!
I love that you are overhauling things and getting rid of what doesn’t work. It’s not about who you are but who you want to be right?
(((HUGS)))
(((((Kerstin)))) we all go thru these times, and i think they are necessary for growth, And I think you are learning alot about yourself, and how to face your challenges. it is all a journey isn’t it?
Its good you recognize the things you have been doing now you will be able to mend them, your weight sounds fine to me, maintain it and fix other things now, im the same way i push friends away and i STRESS so much on things i cant control all i can do is pray at this point, so im relating to you for sure, i have missed you here tho . . .Take care and your family too
Letting things you have no control over go is so not easy. It is so tempting to try to take control and wear yourself out doing it. I’m sending some big hugs. I am glad you have a wonderful husband who treats you well. I hope you keep taking good care of yourself. You are worth it.
“Oh the boring life I lead…” ha! are you serious???
i don’t believe that for a second… glad you’re taking time out for yourself though. that’s important!
you have courage and character to try to resolve issues with your friends. sometimes you just need to decompress and take care of #1.
Glad to see you back again. I wondered where you went in those red pants
I think your focus is dead-on. Make time for the ones who love you and make sure they know how much you appreciate them - in good times and in bad - and I think you just inspired me to write some notes myself today just to make sure the people that I love know it.